I would love to say that I’m the expert on this subject. The truth is, I have always cared about what others think to some degree. This used to be almost debilitating. I constantly filtered myself and would spend wakeless nights thinking about something mean someone said to me.
But as I grow older (I sound like a grandma saying that haha), I’ve learned the situations where it’s okay to stop worrying about what others think.
Well, stop worrying quite so much.
Now part of this process is mindset and part of the process is based in action. I’m splitting this post up into two lists so you can work on each point at your leisure. I hope you find these helpful!
How to Stop Worrying About What Others Think: Mindset
1. Be comfortable with your decisions.
If you’re comfortable with yourself, you won’t feel the need to justify everything to others.
2. Own your style.
I know it can be a struggle to not have those brand name jeans or even know how to put together an outfit besides jeans and a t-shirt. But I’m generally okay with that because that’s what I’m working with right now and I’ve accepted it. I also try to be intentional about pieces I pick out to make sure I LOVE them and they make me happy wearing them.
If you want to change this, take steps towards that. Figure out what your style is. And when you do, pick out each piece of clothing because you LOVE it or it serves a purpose. Then strut your stuff.
3. Love and accept your body.
Yep, certain people will judge you based on the size and shape of your body. No matter what. Can you change that? Heck no. You can, however, change the way YOU judge your body.
4. Realize that it is human to err.
I have the tendency to freak out whenever I make a mistake. I have this weird (illogical) feeling that everyone is looking at me, pointing and talking about how big of a doofus I am. Even recalling embarassing mistakes will cause my face to turn red instantly.
The thing is…it’s likely people don’t really care you made a mistake because it happens to everyone. Usually if you call it out you will find someone who can relate to exactly what you did. You might be surprised how many of the mistakes you make, others also have made and are relieved when you bring it up. (so really, you’re doing them a favor, right? )
5. Turn your insecurities into humor.
Laugh at yourself. It’s a pretty handy defense mechanism and when you’re not totally avoiding all of your problems, it’s a perfectly healthy one.
It also helps if you (like in part 4) tell someone else the silly thing you did. This point is helping me SO MUCH in my new job with my coworkers.
Aaaand I decided to split this up into two posts because I have so much to say on the subject. And if you’re anything like me..your attention span is short!
So do me (slash yourself) a favor and try some of these out! I would LOVE to know if these are helpful. I will be back next week for some more actionable tips.
Spoiler: they might get you out of your comfort zone, but it will be a good thing!!
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